Two Pounds of Cherries

 

I had intended to run into the grocery store for just a minute to check on a few items when my eyes caught sight of the sweet cherries sitting among the produce. They looked really good, and the price was the best I'd seen anywhere. Some were bagged and others were in clear plastic containers with varied labels. "Are all the cherries in that case over there the same price?" I asked a young worker, pointing to the cherries. He nodded as he added some fresh vegetables to one of the nearby cases. "Yeah, they're all the same." 

I picked up one of the containers and walked towards the front of the store. A woman sitting in a wheelchair looked at me as I started to pass, noticing the cherries in my hands. "They look really good," she said. I motioned in the direction of the produce, told her what they were asking for them and encouraged her to grab some before she left. "I fainted today." I looked at her quizzically. She continued to talk, telling me about the disease that had brought on the episode, then went on to tell me the story of the accident that had brought on her condition. A young teenager who she introduced as her granddaughter stood by the chair, quietly watching over the woman. 

It was at that moment I felt that prompting, the nudge that I've come to recognize. "Would you like me to pray for you?" I asked. She had done most of the talking up to that point, but she now fell silent and nodded her head. So there, close to the checkout counters, I bowed my head and spoke a simple prayer over her. I don't remember all that I said, but I don't think that's the most important part of this story anyways. 

Before moving on, I reminded her that there were sweet cherries in the produce section at a great price, then rounded the corner to check on a couple other items before leaving. As it turned out, I had just the one container in my hand after going through the line and out the exit. 

The woman and her granddaughter were still there, not far from the entrance with their bagged groceries. I smiled. "Hi again!  Did you get your cherries?" I asked. The woman shook her head. "No, I didn't have enough left to get them." I knew immediately what I needed to do. "Here, take these," I told her, and handed over the bag containing the cherries. She looked surprised but pleased. "You go get yourself some more," she insisted. I nodded. Of course I would. I love sweet cherries. 

I went back into the store, hurried to the produce department and then through the checkout once again. After all, that was the best price I had seen anywhere, and I do love a good bargain. That two-pound container cost me very little. But for them, that woman who had experienced a very difficult, challenging day, and for the granddaughter who stood watch over her, the cherries were not the only gift they received that day. 

I had no intention of going into Food World that morning. But God had planned otherwise, and with perfect timing, he placed me in the very spot I needed to be. That's what he does. My part is simply to keep my eyes and heart open, and He will do the rest.  

Now a postscript to this story:

I was hitting thrift shops with my daughter visiting from Houston this past weekend, when I heard excited voices from the booth directly across from me. As I turned to look, the woman who I had met and prayed for in that grocery store two weeks earlier stood there with her granddaughter, both pointing at me, crying out excitedly, "You're the cherry lady!" I walked over and greeted them, recognizing it for what it was. It was God's timing once again. His perfect timing. 

All in God's Timing

The women's bathroom had appeared empty when I slipped into one of the stalls that afternoon. I would make it quick. The movie was still running, but it could be going for another hour or so before it finished up. "I'll be just a minute," I had whispered to my companion. "I should be right back."

She gave me a nod as I headed down the steps and then walked the corridor towards the restrooms. The theater was relatively quiet except for the sound of booms that came from one of the other auditoriums. It was an afternoon matinee on a weekday, not the busiest of times. 

Then I heard it, someone sobbing at the far end of the restroom. I opened the door and peered in the direction of the cries. As I approached the stall, telling her my name, and asking if there was anything I could do for her, the door slowly opened.  A young woman in a staff shirt stepped out. With one of her hands cupped over her eyes, through her tears, she sobbed, "I am just so overwhelmed." I asked her no details, but that with her permission, I would like to pray for her. She nodded, lowering her head, the sobs still catching in her throat as I held her hand and prayed God's help, his peace and above all, that she would know how loved she was. 

As I talked and prayed with the young woman another worker entered and joined us. She nodded as I finished and smiled. "God's timing," she said. "God's timing brought you in here." 

As I stood in the lobby after the movie had concluded, chatting with a couple who had traveled over from Montgomery to watch the film, I turned to see that same young woman waiting to speak with me. I smiled, and she smiled back. "I just wanted to say thank you," she said. And then she hugged me once again. Out of gratitude I believe, that I had cared enough to ask. And it was all in God's timing. All in his timing. 

A Shepherd's Heart: The Legacy of Pastor Larry

       Larry with one of the children in Honduras  

 I was asked not too long ago what my husband Larry’s favorite Bible passage might be. I honestly didn’t know. I had of course heard him preach hundreds of sermons over the years. I have lined up on a bookshelf several loose-leaf notebooks full of messages that he compiled over his forty-some years of pastoring. Also, an over-flowing cardboard box sits on his closet floor full of papers with sermon titles, waiting to be either organized or shredded. As for his favorite, I was clueless, and no, I never thought to ask.

Recently I gave Fawn her dad’s Bible. This past week she asked me the same thing, if I knew what his favorite verses might have been. She pointed out that she found his mention of a passage from Philippians a few times as she thumbed through the well-worn pages:

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.” Philippians 1:9-11

I imagine Larry had several favorite portions of scripture; it would have been hard for him to settle on one. But as I read over this passage, I couldn’t help but think how beautifully it described him as he walked the path that God had prepared for him those many years ago.

Yes, he was a preacher, and a good one. He spent hours preparing his messages, and it showed. But his greatest gift? He had the heart of a pastor, a shepherd who genuinely loved the sheep entrusted to him. It wasn’t just the late-night calls from emergency rooms or sitting with a family saying their final goodbyes at the bedside of a loved one.  It went far beyond what might have been expected of him.

It would take an entire book to tell the many stories of the people he touched. Here are just a few:

She didn’t attend our church; he didn’t even know her. But that didn’t matter. She had a mess, the result of a kitchen fire. I don’t remember how he became aware of her need, but he went, and for several hours he scrubbed the walls and did what he could to make that home habitable once again. A couple of years ago we were attending a Christian concert in the area. A woman sitting in the row behind us recognized us and introduced herself. She was the daughter of the woman whose home had suffered that fire those many years earlier. She expressed how much his kindness had meant to them, always remembered. And never forgotten. 

Sarah Stephens, a writer with the local paper, knew Larry quite well and contacted him concerning a pair of young people, siblings, who lived in horrible conditions with their father. Their trailer was in squalor with sinking floors and crumbling walls. Could he help? She would find a place for them to stay, but their stuff, including some pet rabbits, needed hauled and temporarily stored. The church’s utility room was soon full of their possessions, with the cages and their pets directly outside the back door. Some grumbled about the pastor bringing those dirty things into the church. The contents in those containers were not the cleanest, and it was necessary to call the pest control people in before the whole thing was over. But I don’t think Larry thought much about that. I don’t know where that brother and sister are now, but my hope is that they will never forget the kindness extended to them through the hands and feet of two people who saw their need and did something about it.  

He showed up at the church one day, desperate for help. With an invalid daughter and the loss of his job, he and his family had been forced to move out of their home and into a dark, gloomy substandard mobile home. He didn’t ask for money, just if we might have some food for his family. There was no hesitation. Larry gathered up the food that had been donated and followed the man to his place so that he might know where he lived. For the next several months they were visited, encouraged and through my husband’s example, others from the church helped provide for some of the personal needs of that man and his family. Eventually, with a new job and improved finances, he was able to move his family into a nice home, which he insisted we come to see. As we stood in the living room, the contrast between that dark trailer and this place with the light pouring through the windows was striking. But even more so was the light in that father’s eyes, so different than the first time we had met.

And that’s what my pastor/husband did. His love knew no bounds, no matter who the person or what their story might be... 

 

...And it was all to the praise and glory of his God. 

The Kit

 

                                      The Kit cradled in my hand

I saw the bird first, barely recognizable, torn into several pieces. I knew immediately that it had obviously met up with my cat that I hadn’t been able to call in the night before. Poor bird. I know cats will do cat things, but I still felt bad for the feathered fellow. And then I saw it. A slight movement just inches away from the carnage in the grass drew my attention to the small creature that lay there, its chest moving just slightly. I drew closer. A baby rabbit, appearing to be just days old, had obviously met up with my feline as well. How or where, I didn’t know, but there would have been no chase as with the bird. He had most likely been taken from his family's burrow. There was a small puncture wound where the perpetrator had most likely latched to carry him across the yard, but he was most definitely alive. Carefully I picked him up, and as I began to gently caress his body, he stretched, extending his legs.  

I had left the house for my morning walk when I made the discovery of that tiny kit just steps from the back door. I knew as he responded to my touch that I wasn’t to leave him alone. I grabbed a couple of tissues and, holding him in my left hand, started down the path behind our home that leads to the park’s walking track.

As I left the trail and entered the park, suddenly, without warning, I began to cry. Grief often comes unexpectedly, bringing with it an overwhelming sense of loss and the realization that things will never, ever be the same again. Memories of my husband lying in that hospital bed five months earlier washed over me like a flood. I looked at the tiny creature that I held close, feeling my caress as I walked. Those long days that Larry lay in that narrow hospital bed, hooked to tubes and lines, I wish I could have held him close like this.

I walked the trail for about an hour, at times smiling and greeting others as we passed. And then there were the moments when the tears would come without any prompting. They just came. It was then that I would hold that tiny creature I was carrying just a bit closer to my heart.

When I was young, our cats would often drag home young rabbits. We were never able to save any of them. So, on my return home, I prayed, asking the Lord to show me where the burrow was. I knew the chances of survival would be better with the mama. It didn’t take long to find, recognizing it by the rabbit fur surrounding the hole. I placed him deep inside, feeling as I did so, the softness of his siblings. I hope he makes it. Whatever the outcome, I hope I was able to offer that tiny kit, at least for a little while, a bit of comfort. I know he did that for me.      

CALLIE

 

Callie

I had never felt so alone. As I crawled into bed that first night without Larry, I was never more aware of the gulf between where I lay and the side that had been his. Though a king size, it had never seemed quite this big before. The bedspread, where he would have been, lay flat with his two pillows set neatly in their place. The emptiness of that space matched the feelings I had at that moment. The longing to have him there, lying close to me, was overwhelming. I just wanted to feel him, feel something. I turned to my side, reached for the light and welcomed the darkness, anxious for sleep to take me away from these feelings of loneliness and loss. 

It could not have been more than a minute or two later when I heard a plop on the bed and then felt the weight and warmth of a small body lying on the back of my legs. Callie, the calico that I had rescued just a few months earlier, did something she had never done before. She decided to not only join me in bed that night, but to lie in such a way that I would especially feel her closeness, her touch. And I was comforted.  

Callie has continued to climb onto my bed since that first night, waiting for me to settle in so that she can draw close for those few moments. God has his ways. For me, he brought a little calico cat into my life that no one else wanted. I believe it was for this very time, to remind me that I am seen and loved and cared for more than I can possibly imagine. And for that, I am grateful.  

           Stink Bugs

Stinkbugs, stinkbugs,

Crawling everywhere.

Walking cross the counters,

Climbing up a chair.

They’re hanging in my kitchen.

I’ve never seen such gall.

And there they go, some other ones,

Are scaling up that wall.

Look, there’s another one,

Sitting in my sink.

I try to send him down the drain.

Can’t squish him cuz he’ll stink.

Now they’re hiding in the corners

So, I go to get my broom,

And find them in the crevices

In every single room.

There’s a bug, inching his way

Across a window blind.

I never know just where they’ll be

Or how many more I’ll find.

Now they’re in the bathroom,

Playing in the tub.

Come on in they seem to say,

And join the stinkbug club!

When I think the war is over,

And open up the door,

Those nasty bugs swoop in with friends,

So now there’s even more!

There was a time I’d set them free.

But in my house, they want to be.

They like it here, so I’ve been told.

They want it warm and hate the cold.

Sorry guys, I’ve no bad intent,

But there’s something I must say.

You’re way too smelly for this nose,

So, I can’t let you stay.

Down the toilet or sink you’ll go

And I've one more word for you.

Let your buddies know as well,

It's goodbye, adios, adieu!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Walking with Larry

Larry and I like to walk. There's a park with a half-mile track next door, and we spend time there almost every day. We could get a gym membership I suppose, but we prefer being outside.  We're sky watchers, and no one except Charlie Brown has seen more characters hiding in those cloud formations than us. I suppose we've always been that way. There was a creek next to our first parsonage, and we walked it regularly. While serving in Honduras, we took every opportunity we could to walk the streets of La Ceiba or head to the mountains outside the city. Our last pastorate in New York had a park with a track right across the road from us. Rudy was still with us back then, eagerly pulling us along with his leash. 

Larry has dementia. Ok, let's call it what it is. It's Alzheimer's. And with that, there are many things he's no longer able to do. It's hard to watch, to see. The same man who built an entire wing on to the mission house in Honduras with just one person assisting him is no longer able to handle the simplest of tasks in or around our home here in Alabama. 

That's why he likes to be busy outside. Though he's no longer running the mower, he can still take a machete to the brush that runs alongside the tree line of our property. Raking and bagging up the leaves and pinecones that blow across our backyard brings him a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. The last time the hedge clippers were charged up, he was able with some help to lop off a few of the tree branches that hung over our lawn. Our neighbor Rick came over last week and did some trimming around our place. I was grateful as even the little things are getting more difficult.  

But there are harder things. Reading is a thing of the past. A year ago, he could still read one of his old sermons, though very slowly, his finger pointing at each word on the manuscript as he sounded it out. When we first met with a neurologist in Rochester after his diagnosis, she reassured us that because of his advanced education and pastoral skills, he had a good reservoir of vocabulary stored up. But as time has passed, most of that reservoir has been depleted. Conversation is difficult. As a preacher, words came easily. That's what he did. He spoke. He taught. He counseled. And now he struggles to form the simplest sentence. That's what Alzheimer's does. It's a robber. 

But the one thing it has not stolen from him, from us, is our love of a good walk. Even when the weather is especially uncomfortable, this is Alabama after all, we make time in the morning or in the early evening when the sun isn't beating down. No, the disease couldn't steal that from us. But something else could. And it tried. 

It was in the spring of last year that Larry started complaining about pain in his feet, making it increasingly difficult for him to walk very far. An appointment was set up to see the podiatrist and x-rays were taken revealing several prominent bone spurs running along the sides of his feet. The doctor explained that there was just one option for removing them. "We can set you up for surgery," he said. "Just let us know what you decide."

I knew Larry was discouraged and disappointed at the news. The one thing he was still able to do, that which brought him such satisfaction and joy despite the health battles he was facing, were our daily walks. 

We were sitting in our living room a few nights later when he was asked if he would like his feet to be anointed for healing. He nodded. As the oil was rubbed into the bone spurs, he was prayed over in the name of Jesus. It was quiet for a moment, and then as he stood, he began to jump up and down on his feet as if testing them. The pain was gone.

That was almost fifteen months ago. We told the podiatrist to forget about scheduling Larry for surgery, there was no need. Our walks started up once again, and they've not stopped. There are days we walk three or four miles, sometimes we might get to five or six. It wasn't long ago that we did seven. We high-fived each other on that one. 

As we walk, I believe God smiles as we marvel over a beautiful butterfly or when we find and pluck ripened berries from a bush. When we exclaim at the sight of multi-colored blossoms bursting all around us, he delights in that. And finally, as we walk and talk with him about the things and people who are upon our hearts, we know he is listening. I think that's the best part of all. 

I don't know if God is going to heal Larry's mind or not. There is one thing I do know, however. To our God, there is not a bit of difference when it comes to taking out bone spurs or wiping away memory-robbing plaque from one's brain. He can do it all and one day he will. But in the meantime, we are enjoying our walks, a gift that a loving Father gave us to share. And we could not be more grateful.