Friday, March 10, 2023

A Sheep Tale

Our Sheep

I heard a story this week about seven sheep that recently escaped a slaughter house in Patterson, New Jersey, and after being rescued, were sent to an animal sanctuary where they will live out the remainder of their days quite comfortably. How they escaped is yet to be determined, but needless to say, it was a really good move on their part. And that brings me to our own personal sheep story.

It was 1981 and we had just moved into our newly renovated parsonage in rural Pennsylvania. In its former life it had been a farmhouse, so it came with a few acres of land, some outbuildings and a barn. Larry and I looked at those empty buildings and wondered what to do with them. Here we had a small farm right outside our door, but the stalls sat empty. And then we got the brightest, or so we thought, of ideas. Why not get us some sheep? 

Our parsonage came with a small farm   

A couple of our church families raised sheep. We would often see Marilee and Junior Chaffee's flock grazing as we drove by their place, looking so serene and tranquil. Yes, for sure that's what we needed. So we stopped at their home one day and asked if they might be willing to spare a couple of ewes and a ram. Sure enough. A few days later Junior deposited three sheep into our keeping. Our shepherding days were about to begin. 

Our nephews Jonathan and Matthew meeting one of our sheep 

It's been over forty years since we attempted to take on the roles of shepherds, so some of the details have been forgotten, possibly due to memories simply fading over time. But I think it more likely that some things are best forgotten because they are just down right embarrassing. And in our case, I believe this describes us perfectly. 

I still have vivid memories of our sheep taking off down the dirt road that led to our parsonage, their hind ends and tails in the air, as if out for a Sunday stroll. In spite of the fence that surrounded their pasture, they were always breaking out. At first Larry was anxious, wondering how he could possibly get them back in their pen, but it wasn't long before he learned that if we left them alone, they would eventually come home,"wagging their tails behind them." 

They were constantly breaking out and taking off

But if the ewes were a bit hard to control, the ram was worse. A bit cantankerous, it was virtually impossible to keep him in his enclosure. He ruled, taking over the grounds. One Sunday morning we heard and felt several loud bangs and thumps coming from our front porch. A television antenna, several feet tall, sat in our yard directly in front of that porch, bringing in the few stations we were able to get in rural Bradford county. The ram, feeling especially grumpy that morning, had hit that thing so hard, he knocked it completely out of the ground and left it leaning up against our battered roof. 

Our cantankerous ram

It was early spring when we had two lambs born that finally made us admit that we weren't cut out for this. Neither of the babies survived, and we knew that it was time to find a better home for our woolly residents. The Jennings, well-acquainted with the needs of sheep, lived up the road just a short distance from us. Neighbor Dick loaded the three into his truck and as he pulled away and rounded the bend, we felt a sense of relief. Maybe we were a little sad, a bit disappointed that we hadn't done a better job. It hadn't seemed like it would be all that hard. At least not until we were actually in the thick of it.

I guess not everybody's cut out to be a shepherd. It was a harder job than we could have ever imagined and we really had no clue as to what we were doing. It would have been better if we'd hung with someone first who knew sheep: observing, asking questions, learning, equipping ourselves for the task ahead. But because we assumed it was going to be an easy job, we winged it and failed miserably. And yet, looking back, I believe there was an object lesson being played out right in front of us. 

For there's another kind of shepherd. That is the one who loves, cares for, nurtures and grows the sheep, following and living life under the example and instruction of the Greatest Shepherd of all. I've known lots of them, my husband Larry included. It's not an easy job, tending to the various needs of sheep. Some are easy to lead; they bring joy and encouragement to the shepherd. But others are difficult, even cantankerous like our ram. There are others who want to do their own thing, not liking boundaries and  rules, strolling off the property figuratively speaking to see what's around the bend. Sometimes they come back on their own, and sometimes the shepherd goes after them, searching until they're found. But he's always there, always ready, always available, because he understands what's at stake. Eternity. 


 



Friday, January 27, 2023

Odessa

Odessa

When Larry and I arrived in Elmira, New York in the summer of 2009, we could not have imagined the adventure we were about to embark on as Larry took on the role of pastor at the Wesleyan Church. From the moment we entered its doors and began to interact with its people, we knew that this was the place for us. For the next 10 years we would call Elmira home and the people of that church our family. Even after these three and a half years since Larry's retirement, we still miss that place and its people more than we can express. 

And that brings me to Odessa. She often told the story that she was determined not to like us. She had loved the previous pastor; he was young, and well, we weren't. But it didn't take long for her to realize that we were pretty likable and that we truly loved the people that God had sent us to shepherd.  And there was no one that we loved more than her. I mean, how could we not. There was absolutely no one like her!

Odessa in "bling" one Christmas Sunday 
                                                
I nicknamed her my "bling bling friend" because of her love for jewelry and sparkle. I don't ever remember her showing up to church, sitting in that same back pew which she had claimed long before we ever moved into the parsonage next door, without something on her person or in her hair, often highlighted in various colors. She was a southern girl, which she would not let anyone forget even though she'd lived in New York most of her adult life, and her fashion flair was definitely a reflection of that. She also had a bit of that southern "rebel" in her as well, which she proudly declared on a pretty regular basis. 

And she was beyond generous. As the self-appointed "candy lady" at church, she knew how much Larry loved his chocolate and looked for every opportunity she could to make sure he got his favorite confections. Holidays and birthdays gave her an excuse to make sure that we were remembered with a card and a gift. Even after we left Elmira for Alabama a thousand miles away, the cards continued to come. She didn't miss a holiday. 

And speaking of cards, I can't imagine how many she must have sent over the years to those who simply needed a reminder that they weren't forgotten. We saw that lived out when we would visit the nursing homes, cards on display on dressers and tray tables or hear of the phone calls she had made. She served in her own way, not making a big deal about it. But if she saw a need, she stepped in and did what she could. No fanfare. That's just who she was.

The last time we spoke to her was just a few days before she passed on from here to her new home. I told her we'd be back for a visit the following month and that we wanted to spend some time with her. Well, I guess she couldn't wait, her body was simply too tired. Yes, we were disappointed, but we'll just have to wait on that visit for a bit longer. You see, she knew Jesus. She trusted Him as her Savior a long time ago. So as disappointed as we were, I know that we will see her again. And then there will be no more goodbyes.

    

She was absolutely delighted that Pastor Larry
danced with her at her granddaughter's wedding!